If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
It can’t be helped that we tend to view things from the perspective of the majority. This is what works, this is what should be, this is the accepted practice, this is the norm. The standard.
It also can’t be helped that despite what we know better, sometimes we succumb and view ourselves from this same perspective. Am I the clothes I wear, the things I accomplish, the talents I possess, from this perspective?
And therein lies all the self-doubt and insecurity and failure to see things properly. We become so engrossed in what they say we should know, not what we already know. When we pit ourselves against others in a game of Who’s Better, we never win.
And the more we try to be on the same plane as the rest of them, the more we feel the disconnect. It is quite the struggle, trying to find your place while trying to not be out of place.
But the disconnect stems from the fact that we are trying to do everything our way, but based on their way of looking at it. If we only stick with our own approach and never waver, we will be the one to set which way to go.
So go do your own thing. This day and age isn’t the time to be taking memos from other people about what the rules are. Sure, get to know those rules, those dos and don’ts, those standards. But only so that you may set your own, not so you can comply against your better judgment. Sure, study the competition, their strengths, their selling points, the things they have that you don’t. But only so you can find out what yours are, not so you can pit yourself against them. You’re your standard, and you’re your competition. That game, you can always win.
The truth is, we are all a little scared. Scared of the future, of losing someone, of finding our purpose, of something. We put up a front of our own disguises to mask our insecurities and fears. We appear tough and invulnerable, but deep down, we are all a little fragile and lost.
- Him: I know you're always getting yelled at for little things. And every time something goes wrong, it looks as though you are bracing yourself, just waiting for me or someone to yell at you. I don't know how you got conditioned to be this way. I don't know if it's how you grew up at home or if that's how you were conditioned in your past relationship. But let me tell you this, you can wait all you want, but I am not going to do that to you. And I will never do that to you.
After my first quarter in PT school, my friends really know how to spoil me with adventures: bowling, Gameworks, hiking.
This is my second time to Starved Rock, and boy, were we lucky. The weather was perfect, not too cold and not too hot. And the best part about this hiking trip was that I had amazing friends to share this with. ^_^
I think it’s wonderful to get away from the fast-paced city life once in awhile and wander off to somewhere to just fully enjoy each other’s company. (No technology necessary.)
It’s wasted energy. It’s unnecessary negativity. It’s time that could have been put to good use. You can’t change the fact that it is what it is, so learn to work with it.
Remember, you are your own backup plan.
Whenever he does this.. my heart melts. It’s as if nothing else matters but my happiness in that moment. And he won’t let go until I’m ready to smile again.
Anonymous asked: I found your blog today& I just wanted to share with you my love story. A few weeks ago my best friend of 4 years confessed to me. I was scared honestly. I didn't know what would happen-I just knew that he meant everything to me and I didn't want to lose him if something went wrong. Relationships are so unpredictable. Before giving him a proper reply I told him how I felt. Deep inside we're both scared but together we decided that worrying would only hold us back. Best of luck on your journey :)
Thank you for sharing your story with me! ^_^ Yeah isn’t love just so unpredictable and crazy yet beautiful at the same time? And I’m glad you told him how you felt. Most of the times, fear is what is holding us back from amazing opportunities that we could have otherwise missed out on if we didn’t follow our hearts. And the beautiful part of this is, you’re going to be on this journey with someone who has been there for you all these years, who knows you better than you know yourself, and who has seen you at your worst but still chose to be with you. It’s a wonderful thing to be in love with your best friend. It really is. I wish you the very best with your love story. ♥